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The Final Adios Addendum

The Final Adios Addendum

25 September 2010 Healthcare 17

Editor's Note: Our good friend Lorna Gail Dallin has written about her recent experience dealing with the death of a friend in Merida. The following account and the list of events, along with the original Final Adios article and it's attachment (linked at the end of this article) would be helpful to anyone having to deal with the death of a loved one here in Mexico. We suggest that you print this page and/or share it to your loved ones (by email or other means) who might be faced with this situation (there are handy buttons to help you do that just above this paragraph). We welcome your comments and experiences at the end of the article.

Preparing To Die

Three years ago, several of us gringa residents of Merida became curious about what happens when you die in Mexico, and in Merida in particular. Our curiosity turned to concern when we realized that since our “next of kin” does not live in Merida, they could have a rather bumpy time of it if they were unprepared for the eventuality of our death. While Cheryl, Martha and I gathered as much information as we could on what happens upon death, none of us had actually experienced this adventure with a family member or friend.

An Opportunity Presents Itself

Then, some weeks ago, my friend Fred Haight died here in Merida at his home, and presented me with an opportunity for direct experience. About a year before Fred’s demise, I had badgered him into getting his documents in order. This included an official translation of his birth certificate, and notarization and translation of his will. Grant and I had been named by Fred as executors of his estate and by extension, were the ones who would take care of things at his death.

In the following account, the “we” refers to myself, and Grant as co-executors and to either Eduardo or Hector who accompanied us at various times to act as a translator when needed. As Grant quoted to us at the start of this adventure, “Death is not an emergency”. Perhaps not, but that does not prevent the adrenaline from rising to meet this “most serious thing” as Blake named death. And death in a foreign country leaves certain requirements to be taken care of before the death is officially recognized and everyone can move on, including the deceased. Here is how it went for “we”.

The Chain Of Events


  • 1:30 PM: Fred dies at his home, attended by Hector, his friend and nurse through his recently escalating illness.
  • Hector notifies Grant and myself and we meet at Fred’s apartment.
  • Hector phones the doctor who has visited Fred twice at his home and is familiar with his condition. He will come to the house around 3:30 PM.
  • Grant phones the U.S. Consulate to tell them of Fred’s death.
  • Later in the afternoon, the doctor arrives and fills out the Certificado de Defuncion from the Secretaria de Salud.
  • “We” then go to the Funeral Home (Perches Funeral Home on Calle 59) to make arrangements.
  • Hector stays at the apartment with the body.
  • The Funeral director looks at all documents and is satisfied that we can proceed with registration of death and getting the cremation permission. A date at the municipal crematorium is made by the Funeral Home, for 3:00 PM the next day, Thursday.
  • We return to Fred’s home to await the arrival of the van which will take the body to the Funeral Home.
  • We are to return to the Funeral Home at 9:30 PM to pick up an escort who will take us to the Registro Civil to start the process of obtaining permissions.
  • At 9:30 PM we go to the Registro Civil (on Calle 65 between 64 y 66) with an attendant from the Funeral Home.
  • Here we present our documents to the night duty official at the Intake Office.
  • The official asks us to return the next day to speak with the Manager of the Intake Office as there is a slight irregularity with our paperwork.


  • We (with escort from the Funeral Home) return to the Registro Civil, and when the Intake Manager is satisfied that all is in order we are taken to the person who will register the death.
  • This person, at the Desk de Defuncion, inputs all information into the computer, into the records of the State of Yucatan and produces the documents which are presented at the crematorium giving permission to cremate Fred. There is also a permission given to be in possession of cremated remains.
  • And finally, the official Death Certificate from the State of Yucatan is issued. At this time we learned it is a good idea to ask for at least three copies of the Death Certificate as you will need them in the days to come.
  • The representative of the Funeral Home is with us through all encounters at the Registro Civil and will accompany us to the Municipal Crematorium.
  • At the Municipal Crematorium there are more papers to sign and a payment to be made for the cremation.
  • Fred’s body arrives at the Municipal Crematorium from the Funeral Home, just before the 3:00 PM appointment and the cremation takes place. We are asked to verify this by watching Fred’s body travel into the crematorium.
  • We return to the Funeral Home later that night to make a final payment for their services and to pick up the ashes.

Several days later …

  • Following up, we take Fred’s passport and Death Certificate to the U.S. Consulate and also fill out a form: “Personal Data Concerning Deceased” which the Consulate supplies.
  • The Consulate issues a “Report of the death of an American Citizen Abroad” which confirms all Mexican documents and will be used to alert appropriate agencies in the U.S. This will be given to the family after all information and documents as described above have been given to the Consulate.

Suggestions and Observations

US aliens living here in Mexico will do everyone a big favor if we have our documents ready. The following documents should be easy to access, and should be translated and notarized in Mexico:

  • Birth certificate
  • Instruction to cremate – in which you express your desire to be cremated upon your death. This instruction should be a separate document and not included in any other instruction or will that has been left by the deceased.
  • Simple will if there is property here to be distributed (somewhat optional).

If documents are not translated and notarized, enlist the help of the American Citizen Consulate Services right away. They may be able to expedite getting this done.

Note:Canadians … throw yourselves on the mercy of the Funeral Home who will know how to get most of this done. Documents will still have to be translated and notarized. It is unclear how much the Honorary Consul in Cancun may be able to assist Canadians.

If there is no request to cremate from the deceased, a spouse, relative or guardian gives the okay.

Do not take extraneous documents with you. Unless they are asked for, they will only be confusing. For example, there is no need to take the fideicomiso, driver’s license, or recent telephone or CFE bill.

Regarding the Apostille or lack thereof... This hung us up for a short while until we (and the U.S. Consulate) explained that an apostille is given only by the agency that issued the original document. In our case, the Registrar Civil wanted an apostillado for Fred’s Birth Certificate. But how would we get that, we asked, since it would have to be requested by Fred at the actual Registry of Births Office in the state of New York. And why, we asked, was this needed on the Birth Certificate of a dead man. “They” finally relented and passed us without the apostille. So, to have or to have not … an apostille, if you can get it, should probably be got. Canada, by the way, does not issue apostilles (see “The Final Adios” pamphlet on death in Mexico).

From the time the Funeral Home picks up the deceased until the cremation, they are your companions through the process. At least that was our experience with Perches Funeral Home. The Funeral Home rep who will accompany you knows where to go to get things done. You won’t necessarily have to worry about what to do next. You will be guided. Don’t be alarmed by the lack of formality at the Funeral Home... TIM (This is Mexico).

And finally, take your time at the Funeral Home and then at the Registro Civil. This is the time to remember that death is not an emergency … so don’t go rushing in like a norteamericano. Remember... TIM. Establish who you are in relation to the deceased and those who are with you. This will give everyone a chance to assess the situation. Calmly present your documents; they see hundreds of Mexican documents daily – but few from extranjeros with translations and strange attachments. Be prepared to wait, to go slowly, to have to explain things to various and sometimes many different sets of officials. Everyone grinds through this process to the other side, so will you.

And lastly, remember, … No hay reglas fijas.(There are no fixed laws or procedures) This was our experience. Yours could be different.

For your reference, the original Final Adios article is here.


  • LeAnn Roberts 12 years ago

    I went through the final illness, death and cremation of my husband here in Merida two years ago. I used Funeraria Uevedo on the recommendation of the palative care doctor. They were used to handling foreign documents and did all of the "legwork". My husband's son and a friend of mine went to the funeral home with the took them approximately two hours. Everything from that point on was handled by the funeral home. My husband's ashes were delivered to me less than 24 hours after his death.

  • Bruce 12 years ago

    Excellent information. I know many people will not permit themselves to "think" about the subject but it is something we all face. After all, "Life causes death!"

    You have answered so many question by simply walking everyone through the process step-by-step! How hard to do a little homework in advance so those tasked with the "chore" find the minimum amount of bumps.

    I only was left with two questions which other may have as well.

    1. Can Funeral and Crematory arrangements be pre-paid in Mexico?
    2. Can the remains be buried or disbursed in Mexico? and can this service be pre-paid?

    Thanks again for information that is so relevant and helpful.

    Can't wait to meet you in person when I arrive in January - Bruce

  • Holly Smith 12 years ago

    Thank you Lorna Gail for this incredibly clear and helpful summary of your experience. Once again you provide me with a compassionate reminder that having all things in order (and appropriately translated/notarized) will make this final moment so much more gentle for me when I face this final adios with friends, or when my loved ones follow up for me.

  • Lane 12 years ago

    Lorna Gail, your writing is clear as a bell. Thank you all involved in rounding up this information. And thanks Fred, for being the " body" as we used to call it in massage school.
    Good work, people!

  • Le V. Bailey 12 years ago

    Excellent and very useful information - i will complete your recommendations! I organized and finalized all my critical documents in the USA but certainly did not consider how to prepare for and execute the ''death process'' in Merida, Mexico. Again, excellent information for my family, etc!

  • Dianne 12 years ago

    This is a very interesting and informative article. A death anywhere can be trying, but I am sure it can be a real challenge in another country. Thanks!!

  • Brenda Thornton 12 years ago

    Thanks for this. Death is a thorny and legally sticky situaiton in a country of one's birth and primary residence, but seeing that one's wishes and those with whom those wishes are left can be assisted should be something all of us do.

    These individuals were indeed wonderful and kind friends to this gentleman and my sincere condolences to they, Hector, and the family and other friends.

    May Fred rest in Peace and may the others draw something from having helped another human being leave this world, knowing that others cared and loved him, and would assist him in his desires.

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